A Grace Period (or How to Channel Your Sadness Into Love)

A Grace Period (or How to Channel Your Sadness Into Love)

This past week has me feeling heavy. I’ve felt heavy with the devastating news of recent school shootings in the U.S. and horrific stories of Syrian refugees abroad trying simply to survive. I’ve been struggling to process and understand the loss I see perpetuated on my television screen, on my Facebook newsfeed, in the chatter of colleagues and neighbors.

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Manifest the Qualities in Others You Want to See

Manifest the Qualities in Others You Want to See

It’s a Tuesday morning and I’m irritated with someone. I’m gritting my teeth and taking deep breaths and resisting the urge to ball my fingers up. It doesn’t matter who I’m irritated with or why. What matters is that suddenly I’m consumed by negativity. My mood is sour and I’m pursing my lips when only four minutes ago I was sprinkling salt and pepper on my fried egg with nothing but calm, neutral brain waves coursing through me. I’m allowing my negative thoughts to slowly slip over me like a thick woolen cloak with a hood—suffocating in this July heat—and I can no longer see the situation in front of me as it actually exists.

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Anatomy of a Friendship

Anatomy of a Friendship

I’m riding shotgun next to Ariel, my dear friend and roommate from my study abroad semester in Paris, and she’s speaking at a rapid pace. High energy, audible enthusiasm, eyes widening, occasionally taking her hands off the wheel to gesticulate. She’s telling me about one of her friends. “And she’s bright, committed, kind, fun, quirky—you would love her.” I nod my head and watch as Ariel describes this girl’s genuine, compassionate, charming personality and proceeds to tick off the reasons she appreciates her. It occurs to me as Ariel is speaking that what is happening in her car at this moment is a beautiful thing.

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