Recently I was reminded of the importance of letting go.
Not letting yourself go or giving up or angrily handing something over, but the art of gracefully releasing your hold on whatever you’ve been so desperately clutching.
It might be an idea or a relationship or an expectation or a job or a fear or even your own past, but whatever it is it’s not serving you.
How can it serve you when it’s blocking your ability to receive?
Imagine the literal representation of holding onto something: Your hand is closed and balled into a tight fist to protect the thing inside it.
With your hand closed, you cannot reach for something else. You cannot grab something important as it flies past or touch something beautiful that sparks your curiosity. You cannot lend a helping hand to another person. You cannot offer the warmth and comfort of your touch on a loved one’s arm or back. You cannot pick something up or cradle something gently in your palm.
With your hand closed, you cannot receive.
Similarly, when your mind and heart attach themselves too tightly to something, there is no space to receive anew.
Lately, I’ve been working on letting go so I can receive more fully the beauty and bounty the universe has to offer.
Every day I have to remind myself to release my hold on the notion that some event should happen a certain way, or that someone I love should behave a certain way, or that something I’m working toward should unfold in a certain way, or that some routine I have should result in a certain outcome.
Because clinging to my ideas of what should happen prevents me from recognizing that there are a thousand wonderful, soul-enriching ways things could happen that I never would have considered.
Not only that, but holding onto things is heavy, tired work. We have to carry the things we attach ourselves to, even when they stop working for us and become dead weight — and that constant effort is physically and emotionally draining.
Life is so much easier when we unburden ourselves of the things that drag us down. And life is so much more exciting when we let go of what we think is best and open ourselves to the possibility of what could be better.
So unfurl your fingers and release your grip. Then, with grace and faith, open your hand to receive the thing you didn’t even know you needed.
What have you been holding onto lately that isn’t serving you? What things can you let go of today to lighten the load you carry? Sending everyone the strength to let go of whatever is pulling you down.
P.S. "The energy behind a ‘should' is controlling and manipulating. The universe does not align with that energy. Therefore, we cut off communication and receptivity. It's when we let go of the outcome that we open up our perceptual world view and allow ourselves to be led."